As a clairvoyant psychic and healer, people often seek me out for counsel, advice, feedback and comfort. This is a blessing in my life. I appreciate that my friends respect my input. However, it’s easy to get trapped between my desire to help someone else and my need to take care of myself. Occasionally, when I’m not paying sufficient attention, I ignore my own needs in the midst of trying to serve others.  

I know some of you reading can relate to my dilemma. The story:

Recently, a dear friend asked me to use my clairvoyant psychic abilities to”look” at something. He felt some urgency about a situation and my input was valuable to him. I agreed. I was happy to do it. Yet somewhere deep in the recesses of my brain and heart, I sensed that this was a little bit too much for me to take on at that moment. I began feeling stressed and agitated. But I didn’t want to say no. This person is important to me. He was confused, and he really wanted my help. 

What to do?

The first step was to actually notice I was stuck. I could see that I did want to find a way to help him, just not by compromising myself.

I had considered giving up my writing time to help my friend. But when I had this thought I noticed a tightening inside, both physically and energetically. That’s a big red flag! To sacrifice my writing time would have been abdicating my own needs. I  know my friend wouldn’t want that for me either. 

On my way to acupuncture later that morning (yes, it’s something I do for me every three weeks) I called him, explained what was going on, and asked if we could figure something out. Two things happened on that call. First, he was understanding of where I was emotionally and appreciated my checking in. Second, I discovered his immediacy around the situation had dissipated. We agreed that I would “read” his situation when I had more psychic and emotional space within. As it turns out, I already had more emotional space from just checking in with him. I felt relieved and calmer. I did the clairvoyant psychic reading a few days later.

What I’m Learning/Working On

Listen, Notice & Take Action

As a healer, teacher and Capricorn, it’s very easy for me to help others and ignore the impact on my own life. I have to continuously work on listening to my inner voice. The truth is, if I don’t take care of myself—body, mind and spirit—I’m really of little use to anyone else anyway. So one lesson is about noticing what I need in order to feel an inner calm and balance. I am trying to recognize more quickly when I feel out-of-sorts. Instead of waiting for the big signs, what are the little signals that tell me I’m not taking care of myself? What are the physical signs, the feelings, and the messages that are popping up to tell me that I’m off track in this moment. I want to take action then.

I’m working on setting better boundaries for myself. I need to create time for me, even just in little bits. That means addressing: sleep, exercise, meditation, writing, time with my husband, time to myself, time in nature, my work schedule, vacations, and more. In a much more subtle way, this means learning to pay attention in the moment and asking myself, “what can I do right now to feel more equilibrium?” And then do it! 

Speak up and ask for what I want

Often, if I talk to someone and explain what is happening for me, we can mutually come up with a solution that works for both of us. So, I need to speak up! This means overcoming my fears of asking for what I want and need. By doing this, not only will I be taking care of myself, but I will be modeling a way of moving through the world that can help others learn to take care of themselves! In the long run, me taking care of me serves everyone.   

I want to hear from you

Can you relate to this story? Do you face similar situations and challenges? How do you take care of yourself in relation to others—especially those whom you deeply care about? What have you learned that works for you? I’m interested!. If you’d like to share, please write a comment below. 

Work  With Me

If you’d like some help taking care of yourself or figuring out what to do in relation to a friend, family member or colleague, contact me and we can talk about which kind of reading might help you.  

What else I’m up to

~ I recently returned from the northern coast of California where I combined relaxing, rejuvenating and half a dozen readings. It was a delightful trip playing on the beach with my husband, Alan, and our dog, Sammy, plus meeting beautiful people for whom I did readings.

~ I’ve been enjoying reading two books over the last while: Ask Your Guides by Sonia Choquette and The Fiery Cross by Diana Galbaldon. 

~ I am appreciating the bounty of summer fruits and vegetables. I so enjoy creating meals with beautiful, fresh produce! 

With love and light,